Connecting for Couples

Improve relationships, Increase intimacy, Achieve better communication

Couples work can be beneficial even if you are not experiencing difficulties in your

relationship. Greater self awareness and insight into the emotional life of our partner can often

be helpful in promoting deeper levels of intimacy.

Where conflict exists in a relationship it can be easy for disconnection to grow and lead to one or

both partners feeling unseen, misunderstood, and undervalued. We can easily get caught up in

the game of who’s right and who’s wrong instead of focusing on what the other person is

actually feeling and needing. These sessions offer an opportunity to reconnect with each other

using the power of empathy, deep listening and the attunement of attention.

In life, our relationships are mediated by the unique way that we perceive both ourselves and

other people. These perceptions evolve over time and are often shaped by our

early experiences of love and intimacy. Adlerian psychology is designed to

help us examine our feelings, attitudes and beliefs in a friendly atmosphere of curiosity, equality

and encouragement. Deepening our insight allows us to discard unhelpful patterns and

projections, enabling us to let go of outdated safeguarding strategies which no longer serve us, paving the way for a more nourishing connection. 

Non Violent Communication (NVC) is a particularly valuable tool we can add to our relationship toolbox when it comes to identifying and expressing our feelings and needs effectively.

“We all need to receive empathy to give empathy.”  

- Marshall Rosenberg (Author of ‘Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life ’)

“All human beings strive to fulfil their need to be connected to others, We all need to feel Connection and belonging”

- Amy Lou & Betty Lou Bettner (Authors of ‘Raising Kids Who Can’, ‘A Parent's Guide to Understanding and Motivating Children’ and joint developers of the “Crucial C’s” of child development)  

Empathy is seeing with the eyes of another, listening with the ears of another, and feeling with the heart of another.”   

- Alfred Adler (Creator of Individual Psychology)